How to Manage Stress – Coping with your Stress and Stressors

After identifying your stressors, and more particularly, the nature of your stressors, you can start to think about how to manage stress.

Stressors that are difficult to change

There is a good reason to look at every problem individually, as there might be some stressors in your life that you are unable to easily change. This could be your current work situation, social demands or similar events. In these cases the solution is not to all together remove yourself from the situation and erase it from your life, but to find a healthy way of coping with the emotional distress the situation is giving you.

If you for instance feel swamped at work, then maybe taking a small amount of time, in order to recharge and collect yourself, is a good option. Or changing the way you view the problem, and try to focus on the positive sides of it, switching it to more of a challenge than a problem.

This may sound overly simplistic, and harder to convert into practice, but really taking the time to value the importance of a task can be extremely helpful, and help you prioritize in life. Is your success really fully dependent on this one task, right now? Or will the world keep on spinning, and will the sun still rise tomorrow, even if you don’t deal with it immediately?

A simple thing to lose track of, when feeling overwhelmed or exceedingly busy.

Direct stressors

Other stressors might be of a more direct nature, such as having a negative person in your life, or a hobby that ends up feeling more like a chore than a pleasure. In these situations, the resolution might instead be to completely remove yourself from the situation, and decrease contact with the particular person, or activity all together. Something that may be hard to do as well, due to routines and social conventions. However, the personal well being must be prioritized at this point, and there is definitely no shame in restructuring your life in a way that eventually will make you feel better.

You have to keep remembering that you are living for your own sake, and being constantly stressed out, is not a particularily good way to keep on, for a prolonged period of time. These are all very good reasons to learn how to manage stress properly.

Actively change

Some stressors might be structured in a way that allows you to change them, through some practical interventions of your own life. For instance, investigating if you could possibly switch to dayshifts rather than nightshifts at work, only organizing social events on the weekends if you feel depleted after long work hours, or taking set time out of your schedule to spend with family or loved ones.

It will however require some careful analysis of your own life and the time you have disposable, in relation to the things you want to achieve and experience. Nor is this an easy task. But, simply sitting down with pen and paper in your spare time, and thoroughly organizing the events in your life, in order to properly reduce stress, can be very efficient when learning how to manage stress.

A key point might therefore be to simply divide your stressors, once identified, into categories, and starting to make a plan of how to remove, change or cope with the current events that are going on in your life. A few minutes of work which regularly will give you a clearer sense of control, a good overview and some healthy ideas for how to keep on going in the future. All with the one, common goal, of making your life just a little bit easier to live.

Learning more about how to manage stress

If you are interested in learning more about how to manage stress, we recommend reading this article about coping mechanisms. You should also look at some actual stress management techniques in this article.